Happened to come across a post regarding boys Vs girls. Suddenly it struck me that of late, there are number of issues seen as boys V girl issues. Be it a TV prog or any other issue. Does two opposite sexes mean that one group should always point fingers at the other?I also came across a news article where one of the prominant faces has started a campaign against men to prove that the are potent before marriage. IMO, this is purely a personal issue and urging the Govt to create a law is ridiculous. I do agree that women have undergone hell in earlier days and is still happening. But will a woman be able to do it when a man demands it? I dont think many women will agree to this.

The improvement in literacy rates among women has come with a package. It has instilled the thought that they can survive in this world without the help of others. This is a welcome change. But, to what extent can this be accepted is a question mark. In some cases the feeling of self confidence goes overboard leading to a lot failures in marraige. Having started to write about marriages, a few issues strike me immediately. In the past few months, I have been hearing many sad-ending marriages, where innocent men were betrayed by women..Was that a co-incidence? I dont know. But it has actually kindled a lot of thoughts in me. What is marriage all about? Is not a give and take "Relationship"? I put relationship within quotes for a reason. Now-a-days, everything has become mechanical. Marriages are no exception. They are like written agreements. Again, there are a few exceptions. Men misbehaving with women and women not able to meet up with the expectations of men, and so many other cases have still not been thrown out of the society. Yet, the issue of women behaving strangely is on the rise.

The Media in the name of reality shows is not sparing anyone. It is happy to come up all shows that increase the rift between men and women. Neither of the sexes can survive without the other. Then why all this? On one of the channels, I see two teams competing against one another. The so called best part of the show is that, one team consists only of men and the other team consists only of women. Atleast, we can be happy that women think that they are equal to men. On the other hand, on another channel, the slave mentality of women is being exploited. It came up with a debate where-in women argue that they are the ones behind men's successes!!!!!!??????? And men sitting on the other team, deny the arguement. Ah! what an amazing way to increase the TRPs. The media instead of addressing the problem, is actually making things worse. Why do some women still want to them to be recognised as behind the scenes? When will this attitude change? When are we going to strike a balance?

I know that the answer can well be matched to an ideal situation. But, cant we actually strive hard to build and ideal situation wherein, women get duely recognised, men are no longer the villians in many girls' life and vice-versa?

Yes, we can build an ideal society if only we identify the problems and stop brooding over everything that we come across. We can build one society if we stop taking up pety issues and crying foul. .The above mentioned issues are only a small portion of the problem before us. If we look deep into all these issues, we might get many such which will years together for us rectify. Yet, we shall be determined to work towards resurrection. Things are changing. To those women who still feel that they need recognition for their men's success:- come out of the slave mentality and stop trying to be behind the scenes . To those who have come out of that and instilled the thought of equality/superiority, we still need men and they need us. So we both are equal. Let us not do what they did to us and spoil each other's lives. We have better things to do!!!

Lets Go Green

Every mood of her's or his can be related to a natural surrounding or a season in this world . Many would love to dance in rain, many would love to be in a natural, greener surrounding, or take a drive on a pleasant and sunny day. We like to associate many things with nature. But do we have any clue of what Mother Nature is going through because of these? Yes. Many would know. But we are reluctant about these happenings and dont want to try and rectify it. Unfortunately, the life of the future generations is at stake. Not to forget the fact that there are many natural disasters like the tsunami, earth quakes, etc which we are already facing. When we analyse the facts, many questions arise. Aren’t we the ones who are spoiling the nature. Aren't we, the so called superior beings, “THE HUMAN BEINGS" the reason for many of the natural disasters? The answer to these questions is YES. We are the reason for these. But it is better late than never.

As many are aware, some of the major reasons for the depletion of the earth are deforestation and extensive use of plastics.

Deforestation in general terms is the mass destruction of forests. It occurs when efforts are taken to turn them to non-forest areas for the sake of urbanization and other reasons without reforestation. The process of deforestation is often a complex pattern of progressive fragmentation of the forests. This might even lead to the forest destruction. The effects of it being extinction of many species, extensive soil erosion, green house effect, flooding, landslides, degraded watershed, denuded upland, destruction of corals along the coasts, silting of rivers and dams.

1. Greenhouse effect: One of the major effects is the greenhouse effect. When the forests become less, the amount of CO2 in the atmosphere increases. This leads to global warming as the plants and trees that take in CO2 for photosynthesis are gone. This causes the ozone layer depletion which in turn allows harmful radiation from the sun to enter the earth.
2. Extensive soil erosion: The roots of the trees or the plants hold the soil in place. The fertile layer of the soil is held in place with the help of the trees. When trees are cut, soil is vulnerable to erosion and the felling of trees also leads to landslides
3. Extinction of species: Millions of species get extinct when forests are destroyed which leads to the loss of biodiversity.

The other fatal reason is the usage of plastics. Plastics are a general name given to wide range of synthetic or semi-synthetic organic amorphous materials suitable for the manufacture of industrial products. Plastics are durable and degrade very slowly, the molecular bonds that make plastic so durable make it equally resistant to natural processes of degradation. Since 1950's, a large amount of plastics has been discarded. This may not get destroyed in the near future and burning plastics also leads to release of toxic gases. The manufacturing of plastics also produces a lot of pollutants. Except for a few plastics, the recycling of plastics has proven to be far from reality as of now. The decomposition of plastics take millions of years and therefore, when they are thrown away, they tend to go under the soil. This leads to soil pollution. When it rains, the soil is not in a position to take in the rain water as the plastic retards it seepage.

The above mentioned reasons can lead to a lot of complications for the future. In order to avoid this, we can adopt simple methods at the lower levels. Following these can help us save our planet from some environmental hazards at least for time being.

Save Power/Electricity:

• Unplug appliances when they are not in use.
• Use compact fluorescent light bulbs.

Save Water:

• Use minimal amount of water for washing utensils and cloths
• Take shorter showers
• Open the taps with conscious decision to use little water.

Save Gas/Petroleum:

• Go for eco-friendly bikes.
• Use public transport to reach destinations
• Walk to near by shops or take bi-cycle

Use of eco-friendly carry bags:

• We can carry recyclable carry bags or cloth bags to buy from the market instead of using plastics

Avoid wastage of paper: Instead of buying new books, we can borrow books from friends or libraries as they save a lot of paper being wasted and also the ink that has gone into printing these materials.

E-wastes: Avoid throwing electonic goods into the trash as e-wastes contain mercury and other toxic items that are already posing a big problem.

Buy Dresses: Avoid buying dresses that need dry-cleaning. This helps in avoiding a lot of chemicals from being used and discharged.

We shall also make it a point to grow plants in and around the surrounding areas which would extensively help us and the environment we live in. Probably, we can present a better environment to our future generation as gift. :)

Am gonna go green. Are you?