Do's and Dont's during Pregnancy

Pregnancy and child birth are the best things to happen to in any girl's life. So is true with me as well. I shall pass on a few tips to the moms-to-be.

There are a very few pregnancies where, everything goes on smoothly and you end up delivering without much effort. But in my case, I almost had all the symptoms and ended up in a C-section.

So, I took atmost care to deliver a healthy baby and these are some of the stuffs that I think I can document and pass on to.

 It is better to check with a Gynaecologist if you have any intentions of having a child. It helps to avoid any mishap. The doctors mostly suggest a Folic-acid based course for the development of the healthy babies.

When the pregnancy is confirmed....

Do's
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1. Take in enough liquid in form of fresh juices and water. There is bound to be constipation. It is always better to take in vegetables like Cabbage and Radish that help in easing out.

2. Some people might have nausea, vomiting and giddiness. So, it is better to identify those food items that are  nauseating and avoid them.

3. Take rest. Sleeping is the best way to take rest.

4. Listen to a lot of music. Researches are going on to prove the music therapy helps in a sharp development of brain in fetuses.

5. Start walking and doing exercises/yoga that your doctor has prescribed.

6. Eat lots of fruits like pomegranate and apple.

7. Watch comedy clips to keep your mood upright as there will be a lot of mood swings happening due to hormonal changes.

Dont's
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1. Eat outside food and water. They may contain ajinomotto, a chinese salt, which is supposed to carcinogenic.

2. Eat sweets and oily food that might lead to Gestational diabetics and also high blood pressure. It always helps in keeping weight gain under control.

3. Eat for 2 people. There is never a case where we will be eating for two people including the child. It only leads to unnecessary weight gain. Fill your stomach. The baby will get its food automatically.

4. Take in medicines without consulting doctor. The medicines that we take might have a different effect during pregnancy.

5. Apply cosmetic lotions/creams. They affect the skin and leave some pigmentations.

6. Lift heavy objects. This might leave you gasping for breath and might lead to cramps

7. Take too much Stress. With the amount of sedentary and stressful jobs increasing, there is a need to take extra care to avoid such stuff.

8. Travel in Auto-Rickshaws.

These are some of the suggestions that I put forth to the expecting mums out there. Shall Update the blog if some more strike my mind,

Love!

Disclaimer: No two pregnancies are the same. These are based purely on my experiences.. 

The Magic of Parenthood and the joy of motherhood!

We were not ready to have a child yet. We were still wanting to borrow time from our parents and asked them not to "pester" us with the question--"When are you going to have a child?" We had just conveyed our feelings to our parents.

On that day, I had immense pain on my lower back and I had missed my periods. I consulted a gynac to only be told that I was 'Pregnant'. We both looked at each other and my husband popped up this question whether he should thank or congratulate. That moment I saw a very different person in my DH. From a person who was not ready for parenthood, he had transformed into an all together new person who was so excited and thrilled and who was so concerned about each and every step that we took forward. It sunk in him so soon. I was fully into a new zone and the medicines that I was prescribed only made me so sleepy and drowsy. I hardly had time to enjoy my first trimester. For me, it was still sinking in that I was going to be a mom. I took each day as it came . Generally, they say women get that motherly instincts the moment they get  to know of the pregnancy but men get their fatherly instincts only after holding their babies in the hand. I don't know how far it is true as in my case, I saw a very doting father in the making right from the start of my pregnancy , in him. I always took care of myself for the sake of the baby .  World started revolving around the to-be born baby without our knowledge. Yet it was the labour room that told me what this child actually meant to me when I was told that the baby w under distress. I went to extent of telling the doctor that it was ok if anything Happened to me but I wanted the kid to see this world all hale and healthy.And I meant every single word of it. A mother in me was already born!! :-) Though it is not a new phenomenon that a woman delivers a baby, yet, I was so proud of being a woman and a mother when she was born. The respect for womanhood has only increased!! :-)After that 2 and half day ordeal we were indeed fine and the joy has only increased profoundly!!! The new father was too busy buying stuff for the next few days that he even forgot that he needed to catch up some sleep. 

Every day has been and experience with Her. She has changed the life for good. I have changed a lot :-) As she learns so do I. Everyday she learns new things and the number of times she fails to actually perfect her movements only fascinates me and I learn a lot from her. It is all the more magical when she cries  calling me "Amma". The first time I heard her say that word was on a mother's day. What more can I ask for????? She is magical. Isn't she?

There was always a united feeling about India

The other day my husband came home with memories of how he lived his childhood without any hush-hush and enjoyed the serene surroundings. He also mentioned about a discussion in office. One of his colleagues had blogged about the songs that used to be aired on Doordarshan(which was the only channel available for all of us before the satellite TV took over) and that people aged between 25 and 35 can easily relate to it. Songs like Mile sur mera thumhara, Vande mataram, etc.  Those are master pieces. We can never recreate that era anymore.

We continued our discussion and both of us could not agree more on the point that India is no longer the same. There was always a calmness and an integrity and a unity associated with this lovely country. Now all we find is a fight, a race to prove who is on top and corruption. Everywhere we go, there is only fight, there is corruption. I am not against any development happening in our country. All I feel is that the development has taken away the charm associated with this country. There is always a sense of insecurity. The sense of calmness is no longer prevailing. There is a lot of commercialization around. For example, I hardly find children playing on roadside these days.There are a lot of flat systems that have come up where the children are made to play in a very small confined area. If this is not the case, they are made to attend some class or made to sit in front of the TV watching some cartoon channels. On the contrary, when we were children, since we were not exposed to such advancements, we were left to play all day. We, as children would play until we were exhausted and would return home after a lot of physical activity. I only pity the state of the kids these days. Not only this, there are a lot of high end vehicles that ply these days which are making the situation worse.  I wish there were only less vehicles around and we were made to cycle to our destination. This could save a lot in terms of fuel as well the environment.

Talking about the integrity and calmness, when we trying to find out the reason, we could spot one big hole in the system. From what I understand there are a lot of people out there waiting to exploit the divide  amongst us in the name of POLITICIANS. We believe in someone to help us. we trust them. we elect them and lo-behold, all we see is the size of scams becoming bigger and the state of people becoming poorer. We don't see anything that is pro people. All we see is how they pocket bigger money and thereby increasing the burden on the people. Not to forget the region wise divide they bring in. Instilling the thought of oneness is long gone. This topic is vast. The frustration is only increasing. Every new idea brought into the state for the people is no more For The People rather is more For The People(read family members and children) of the politicians. You see a scam popping out of anything and everything they do and globally one day India will be called The Land of Unlimited Scams.

It is not only the politicians  who are to be blamed. It is plain and simple they are provided with opportunity by we the people ourselves. We dont want to do anything other than cribbing and calling others by the region they belongs to. We sit at home cribbing. At least that is what I am doing at this point. I'll ensure certain are instilled in my kid as to not become one amongst the thousands and lakhs and crores to keep mum seeing the shit thrown at her and at people around her. 

It is a long post already yet I am unable to resist myself. When I think of what my child would understand and what she might have to go through, I go crazy. I dont want her to see it as a corrupt land.. I dont  want her to see this place which is unlivable. I know, I understand that I am being overly complacent however, all I can do at this point is tell you what I feel. You are my mirror. I just hope a days come when better things are awaiting all of us. 

P.S : This post is a reflection of some bad experiences... :(. This too shall pass..